Can We Help Ourselves?

I have been a slow grower(as far as maturing in thought is concerned) and did not understand things around us and the relationships,human psychology very well.I did have to undergo some extreme experiences myself at school when I was a boarder in school.That is a place where you learn to survive,fight and prove yourself as an individual.The variety amongst fellow students and therefore children from all kinds of homes and backgrounds comes to the fore. This is a lesson one learns while in a boarding school,away from "Home" and all on your own.This may be the reason which has made the question I ask...because the answer can be both 'Yes' and 'No'.
The reasons why a child is sent to a residential schools are very many. A naughty and unruly child, broken homes children, those who have lost a parent, for a better education and principled upbringing, to teach the value of home and parent protection, scarcity of time and people to look after the ward etc.....
How a child would react to this type of education and upbringing,what he/she would experience and how he/she would react is all but individualistic. It was a positive experience for me and a refreshing and helpful one. The same can't be said of all who were with me.Destiny and fate does play a great part but that is not within your control.I believe doing your best with the best of intentions is all what can be done with life in any situation.
I thought it would work for my children as I sent them to a boarding so that they would learn the art of survival along with a disciplined education. What they turned out to be is another thing. There are many factors outside school too and that is the 'Home' they live in. A lot depends upon the parents as individuals and together as a unit. Living by example rather than just verbal banter will not help. Hypocrisy is the worst of all. Selflessness teaches a better morale than a selfish and self centred one. What you do is what you teach. There cannot be two ways at a time.
The modern children,whether they are taught at day school or boarding ,has a different tale. The life has a lot exposed in a short period and the demand on the child is huge.Competition is set in too early and the output required is beyond normal expectations. He/She are not only exposed to wrong ethics and morals too quickly but ate not nurtured too well at school. The cultural and educational system is at a very low commitment level as far as the teachers and school organisers are concerned.The values of good living are going down and the media is of negative help in educating it's readers and viewers.
Much needs to be done.The politicians are an indisciplined lot themselves.Their chameleon qualities have put them down the ladder of popularity and social status.They cannot be relied upon for progress and security.Stability has to be built by ourselves now a days by economic strength and that is what the capitalistic regime wants. We are now a slave to habits and needs created by us and we are responsible then for ourselves.
We can help ourselves to a great level......but destiny will finally play the last move and fate is what proves you that there is a final power in the creator....He, She, It...whoever may be !!!