Children no more.....

After 3 decades of marriage one has this wonderful experience of  being a father to grown ups.
It is an exhilarating feeling. You may ask why and rightly so. Exhilarating means according to the dictionary..

1. (n.) The act of enlivening the spirits; the act of making glad or cheerful; a gladdening.
2. (n.) The state of being enlivened or cheerful.

Why glad because finally they have all grown into 'Adults' (21+) Cheerful because you have no worries about how,what,when,why? You brought them into this world our of your will and choice.You successfully gave them care,love,home,name,education and helped stand on their feet as self supporting beings.

 In the 'West', they have their kids @home only up to High school and rightly so,push them in to the water so to say or the 'Sea of Life' so that they learn to survive and achieve what they can unto their abilities.

Here we surely take things too far.

We even care about what they study,where they work,whom and how they marry,who they befriend etc...etc... I agree that  children need support after birth to learn hold their heads.Once they do,we help them to stand  and see that they are capable enough to walk on their own.We make them strong  by giving them our finger for moral support so that they gain confidence in themselves. They learn to run,jump,etc... all on their own once you have given them the basics.

Each individual once grown up has to have his/her own choice unless they ask for advice.Again, that is all you can do, the choice is finally their's.You can only try to give them 'the best to your ability'.

Self improvement and growth is different in each individual,nothing can be standardized.Expecting too much is a trait of the human as like 'avarice' or even over expectation.Thought of being and the Ability to be able to are 2 different things.Social status and trend is another great threat to individual development.

All this just to say that I am very clear about what I am doing.Done my duty and don't dream for others.I accept Life,Fate and Destiny!Doesn't mean I sit Idle...lol.

So Now with 3 Adult kids I have put behind me a major milestone...